Often when you hear about women in abusive relationships, people think why would you stay if you knew it was bad. If he hits you, get out, walk away and never consider you deserved it and never should someone justify … Continue reading
40 Signs of emotional abuse
Signs Of Emotional Abuse The abuser doesn’t seem to notice or care about your feelings. You are viewed as an extension of the abuser rather than as an individual. Personal information about you is shared with others. The abuser invalidates … Continue reading
Marriage Advice From A Divorced Man
MARRIAGE ADVICE I WISH I WOULD HAVE HAD: Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… After losing a … Continue reading
Fighting the past or living in the now.
I watched a British doco about the multi millionaire divorce cases in the UK. How the new laws implemented in 2000 means that the wealth accumulated within the marriage is 50/50. It was annoying and sad particularly of one woman’s endurance to fight for what she believed she was entitled to for ten years. Even after her ex-husband was supposedly killed by the Russians, she was still determined to find these millions.
What I was conscious of was that this woman spent ten years fighting the past. I truly understood where she was at and surprisingly too much rang true. Off shore accounts, him declaring no income, hiding behind trusts, the betrayal to her and her children. Not being able to refer to him by his christian name as it personalised him too much. The huge legal fees & interest that crippled her…
I had respect for the other woman who settled for a pittance of what she was entitled to, purely so she would not be giving it all to the lawyers and move on with her life. Although she was personally rich so she continued with her lifestyle which would have made the decision easier.
I could understand both women’s positions and I believe it’s necessary to remain looking at it objectively without emotion.To think of it as a business deal to tidy up. (Which is well and good to say but then my mind says to myself, but where are your diaries from before him, your photos before him, my books, my things that I never got to pack from my home! See it still pisses me off that he feels entitled to keep my things, just cause he’s a controlling arse.)
The way I have managed this period has not been an obvious path that was laid out and no-one ever explained the way it could go, shit it’s been like a twisted thriller that shocked me at every turn. No one could have known what to expect. Thank god my parents and my new man have given me daily advice through every curve ball.
I have realised recently how much it runs through my mind and I’m trying to figure out where to file it so it’s not at the forefront of my mind. It doesn’t make sense keeping it running through my mind. I see how quickly the children are growing and each day with fresh moments & memories happening around me. I don’t want to look up and think “Oh I wasn’t focused on the the now, I missed that part’.
I will keep on challenging myself to be the best version I can be of me. I’ll make sure I don’t allow this aspect of my life define me, or monopolise my new life I have created. I’ll make sure I stretch my comfort zones to create more opportunities and keep smiling.
“Live in the now and look forward to the wonderful things that are still to come.”
Appreciate your daily achievements.
Life is amazing in each of our worlds, what we achieve on a daily basis with the pure intention of doing the best you can and remaining positive, funny, honest and true to ones self is a measurable value. Know … Continue reading
Learning what is ‘normal’ after an unbalanced relationship.
I run a company and live a vibrant life. However, I am quite traditional and therefore accept that the core of the domestic role in the home is my responsibility. My partner is a great cook and enjoys cooking most … Continue reading
Google states that manscaping is “the removal or trimming of hair on a man’s body for cosmetic effect.” Although simplified, hair control is the essential component of manscaping, although the definition could be expanded to include other grooming tasks.
It’s a must! Yes men, if your woman is to go down and take pleasure in the delight of licking your balls, sucking your cock, licking the sides and taking it in her throat, with her lips around your shaft and going back down, we do not want to meet a forest on the way!
Fact. Enough said.
Know what you want otherwise how do you get to where you are going if you don’t know where it is? Choose some small achievable goals, feel excited about it, get it done this week sorta goals. At the same … Continue reading
Walking into the lions den. Except now I am the lion.
I tend not to vent my feelings about the legal complications of my life to my friends. Each situation feels extremely significant to me. If I was to explain each case matter and crazy issue, which sounds like it’s from … Continue reading
Being a mother is the greatest accomplishment in my life. I have two delightful teenagers that full my heart. They are enjoyable individuals who will grow to accomplish whatever they choose in life. I have always been conscious that my … Continue reading